The other day I was having a conversation with someone and I noticed that I started feeling defensive.

blankI began explaining myself…

And when the conversation ended, I got curious.

What about this conversation triggered me to feel defensive?

I started to ask myself questions. And I was able to gain a deeper understanding of what made me upset.

The truth was, I was already feeling sensitive about this subject, and no matter what this person said to me, I would have taken it the wrong way. 

I noticed I started telling myself very limiting thoughts, such as, “I’ll never be successful.”

And I realized it wasn’t what this person had said to me — but rather what I was saying to myself.

I extracted the insights and lessons…which allowed my negative feelings to fall away.

I didn’t have to distract myself from negativity or place a positive affirmation on top of my negative dialogue — I gained an insight and it gave me energy. 

Pain is part of human’s not to avoid it…but to go into it with a sense of openness and curiosity …and if we do that when pain arises we can use it for positive self-transformation.

Many blessings on your journey.