Thinking leads to behaviors. Negative thinking effects everything from relationships, to health, money and happiness. When you begin to notice thoughts and your excessive concern with an illusion about the past or the future, you lose your personal power.
You create your thoughts and you have the power to change them!
The first thing to do is just notice that you have them and be compassionate with yourself (you might find you are saying mean things to yourself). Let them speak and pay attention to your self-talk, once you know they are there, then you have the power to change them.
“See if you can catch, this is to say, notice, the voice in the head, perhaps in the very moment it complains about something, and recognize it for what it is: the voice of the ego, no more than a conditioned mind-pattern, a thought. Whenever you notice that voice, you will also realize that you are he awareness that is aware of the voice. In the foreground, there is the voice, the thinker. In this way you are becoming free of the ego, free of the unobserved mind. The moment you become aware of the ego in you, it is strictly speaking no longer the ego, but just an old, conditioned mind-pattern. Ego implies unawareness. Awareness and ego cannot coexist.”
I hear lots of women who are critical about their looks, especially when it comes to weight and body image. Notice your voice, how it effects your behavior and produces results. You are not your ego. Your inner essence is filled with love- make a choice to listen to your inner voice. .