With so many ideas and fantasy’s about what the ideal love looks like, it can be easy for the mind to create conflict and unhappiness.
One of my favorite spiritual teachers, Eckhart Tolle, explains how one can move from addictive relationships to enlightened relationships.
Below is an excerpt from Eckhart’s book, The Power of Now. His profound yet simple teachings can enable you to have a deeper more fulfilling connection with yourself and others.
“Whether you are living alone or with a partner, this remains the key: being present and intensifying your presence by taking your attention ever more deeply into the Now.
To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation,enlightenment.
To dis-identify from thinking is to be the silent watcher of your thoughts and behavior, especially the repetitive patterns of your mind and the roles played by the ego.
The mind has a compulsive quality, which basically is the compulsion to judge, and so to resist what is, which creates conflict, drama, and new pain.
In fact, the moment that judgment stops through acceptance of what is, you are free of the mind. You have made room for love, for joy, for peace. All mind games and all addictive clinging are then over. There are no victims and no perpetrators anymore, no accuser and accused. This is also the end of all codependency, of being drawn into somebody else’s unconscious pattern and thereby enabling it to continue.
Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you. It is not dependent on some other body, some external form.”
For the past 4 years, I’ve helped dozens of people improve on the quality of their relationships by helping them to clearly identify the issues that trouble them.
Many incredible things have happened in this process. If you would like to work with me to resolve these conflicts, overcome your fears and find a deeper connection with someone, don’t hesitate to contact me to schedule your coaching sessions today.