It’s been awhile. If you follow me on Facebook or Instagram, you know I gave birth to Evan Max, on March 12th at 12:38am. I have been busy with my baby boy; feeding, changing diapers, burping, doing laundry and even though it’s a big adjustment, I’m loving every minute of it! I feel super blessed to have him as a new addition to our family.
A few months back I mentioned that I took a hypnobirthing class to prepare for labor. Well, my birth was nothing that I “planned” for. After 24 hours of labor, I ended up needing a C-section. Turned out my baby was so active in my belly that he got tangled up in the umbilical cord. It was wrapped around his abdomen and foot which ultimately prevented him from descending down. It was a totally different delivery from how I thought it was going to go. Most important, he and I are healthy! It was definitely challenging, but I still had a good experience overall.
In many ways, labor was no different than the process of achieving my goals; how I got there was very different from how I expected things to go. Yet the ultimate outcome did not change.
Many times we get blindsided by obstacles and if we aren’t careful, we can let them derail us from our course. What many people do is quit their goals because things don’t go as planned.
We don’t plan on hating our job. We don’t plan on friendships ending. We don’t plan on ending a marriage. We don’t plan on feeling icky in our body. We don’t plan on having financial struggles. We say to ourselves, “How did I end up here!?”
Yet these things happen. In fact, they happen all the time — to all of us. And when they happen it’s important to stay committed, but take new actions.
We have a choice to take new actions to change our career, create friendships we adore, have boundaries and communication to create a healthy marriage, eat well to feel good in our bodies, and become more knowledgeable about our finances.
It’s moments when we don’t give up on what we want because it doesn’t look like how we thought it would be, that makes all the difference. There are ALWAYS things we can do. As thought leader, Marie Forleo says, “Everything is figureoutable.” What works best is changing our approach.
We think success is linear, but it’s not.
Often, we must be willing to let go of how we thought things would be in order to get where we want to go.
What’s something in your life that is not going as planned? How can you change your approach?
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