I hope you had a great memorial weekend! I was upstate celebrating a wedding – it was so much fun! Last time I wrote, I told you how I was being vulnerable and sharing my story about where I was and the shifts I made to get to where I am. If you weren’t able to.. read more →

By Derneeka Cruse So, you think you’re in love. What does that really mean anyway?  Love is not what is ordinarily understood by the word, and it definitely isn’t what most people think they have created in their microwave relationships.  Yes, I went there, microwave relationships! You know the ones that start on Saturday nights.. read more →

Feb 22
February 22, 2014

The Power of Kindness

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A couple of months ago, I attended a workshop on mindfulness conducted by a Buddhist monk at The Kadampa Meditation Center in New York City. He guided meditations and supported them with profound teachings from the Buddha. Topics included being present, kindness and ultimately staying connected to wisdom through mindfulness. He explained that mindfulness is.. read more →

Scientists & researchers around the globe applaud the benefits. Philosophers & spiritual leaders have been promoting it for centuries. It revs up your metabolism, skyrockets your energy, and boosts your self-confidence. And just a little more of it can transform your whole life – in a beautifully positive way. Nope – it’s not a pill,.. read more →

Happy Valentines Day! Today is a great opportunity to open your heart in a greater capacity. Here a 6 of my favorite quotes by an American figure in Tibetan Buddhism, Pema Chodron: 1. “When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it’s bottomless, that it doesn’t.. read more →

Dec 10
December 10, 2013

12 Confidence Quotes

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“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt “Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I.. read more →

When I first started my business, I hid behind my brand (Self in the City). I was afraid of putting myself “out there.” I didn’t know what others would think of me. I thought, “What would my friends think? What would my family think?” Even worse, “What if….I put myself ‘out there’ and fail?” I.. read more →

Sep 29
September 29, 2013

Healing Relationship Quotes

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Sometimes the best way to say something is the way someone more literary than you has said it. In that vein, here are some relationship quotes of note: “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo.. read more →

Do you know these 7 concrete ways to build trust in a relationship? Often, what really makes a relationship work are not the things we think of first. For instance, do you think you always need to spice things up? Wrong! Predictability is more important than variety in a relationship. The following seven methods are.. read more →

Sep 29
September 29, 2013

Are In A Toxic Relationship?

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How can you tell if you are in a toxic relationship? Here are some clues: Your partner puts you down (verbally) in front of others While your partner says they love you, their actions don’t back it up. Your partner is controlling ñ reading your mail or “showing up” at places you are just to.. read more →